From Strangers to BFFs: How to Make New Friendships as an Adult

If you find yourself thinking about how to make friends as an adult, you’re not alone. After school, life can feel like it’s all about work and being a responsible adult as social life takes a backseat. But having people we can laugh with, share stories with, and lean on during tough times is what makes life more enjoyable. If building new friendships feels trickier than it did when you were younger, know that many others feel this way too. Fortunately, there are plenty of ways to make new friendships a priority.

Friends can make a real difference in our lives. It’s not just about having someone to hang out with—it’s about having a connection. Meaningful friendships can boost our mood, lower stress, and support our mental health. They give us a sense of belonging, which can be especially valuable when you’re going through life’s ups and downs. But when life gets busier, it’s easy to let social time fall to the bottom of our list.

For most of us, life doesn’t seem to slow down as we get older. With work, family, and other responsibilities piling up, friendship can feel like something that takes more time and energy than we have to give. That said, making time for new friendships is one of the best things we can do for ourselves, and with a little effort, they can grow into something truly meaningful.

Tips for Making New Friends as an Adult

Here are a few strategies you can use to connect with new people:

Make Time and Be Consistent

One of the first steps is to simply show up. Try making friendship a regular part of your schedule, like setting time for a new hobby or a workout routine. If you say “yes” to an invite, follow through on it and attend. Consistency will not only help your friendship grow naturally but it will also show you’re reliable, which will help build trust over time.

Connect Over Shared Interests

Instead of focusing on finding people who fit a specific mold or “type” of friend, try joining groups or attending events that interest you. Love reading? Join a book club. Want to be more active? Sign up for a fitness class or a hiking group. Finding friends based on mutual hobbies is a great way to meet people who share similar interests and values. You’ll always have something to talk about!

Reach Out Through Your Current Friends

Your existing friends might already know someone who could be a great friend for you too. Don’t hesitate to ask your friends to invite others along for social gatherings. Often, friends of friends can make great new connections because they already have some things in common with you.

Be Open to Trying New Things 

Trying new things might mean stepping out of your comfort zone, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel nervous about meeting new people, and sometimes this means the friendship doesn’t work out. But don’t let a fear of rejection hold you back from reaching out in the first place. Making friends is a process, and not every attempt has to be perfect. It’s okay to try and try again.

Friendship can take a little work as adults, but it’s a rewarding experience that’s worth the effort. With patience, openness, and a willingness to put yourself out there, building meaningful connections is possible at any age.